A relative of mine got AD/HD. She is a nice and cleaver girl, but people around her (not me) treat her badly because of her handicap. To understand attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (AD/HD) and how it may affect you or someone you care for or have to deal with, it is important to learn as much as possible about the condition. It will help you understand why things happen and what you need to recognize to go along with that person. Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (AD/HD) is a condition affecting children and adults that is characterized by problems with attention (concentrating), impulsivity, and overactivity. Science recognizes three subtypes of AD/HD (inattentive, hyperactive-impulsive, and combined). A diagnosis of one type or another depends on the specific symptoms (i.e. the “diagnostic criteria”) that person has. Public perceptions of attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder (AD/HD) are replete with myths, misconceptions and misinformation about the nature, course and treatment of the disorder. Popular misconceptions assert that AD/HD is not a disorder, and some believe that it is some kind of psychologial illness, that the person having it is some kind of crazy. Those who critizice people having AD/HD rarely present evidence-based arguments and frequently allege things. A person with AD/HD is not crazy, they got a handicap. While barriers to treatment have been reduced in recent years, there is a climate of blame, shame, embarrassment and stigmatizm that discourages some from seeking help for a disorder showing impairment of energy or strength. The climate of blame, shame, embarrassment and stigmatizm that discourages also affect the personal life when people mistreat a person having AD/HD. Then the person having AD/HD feel unloved, discarded, tossed and misunderstood. AD/HD is a weakness and not a mental illness that makes you sick in your head, it does not make you less intelligent.
Parents may avoid professional help because they fear accusations of being labeled poor parents, individuals who needlessly medicate their children. Parents of children with AD/HD are often accused of seeking to medicate overly playful, non-compliant or mildly disruptive children. More likely, parents are struggling to help their children cope with a serious constellation of problems and are seeking help late because previous attempts to in other ways reduce the impact of AD/HD have failed.
Research has demonstrated that AD/HD has a very strong neurobiological basis.
Although precise causes have not yet been identified, there is little question that heredity makes the largest contribution to the expression of the disorder in the population. The person having AD/HD can not help it. The person having AD/HD has not asked for getting it.
In instances where heredity does not seem to be a factor, difficulties during pregnancy, the unborn childs exposure under pregnancy to alcohol and tobacco, premature delivery, significantly low birth weight, excessively high body lead levels, and postnatal injury to the prefrontal regions of the brain have all been found to contribute to the risk for AD/HD to varying degrees.
Research does not support the popularly held views that AD/HD arises from excessive sugar intake, excessive television viewing, poor child management by parents, or social and environmental factors such as poverty or family chaos. Of course, many things, including these, might aggravate symptoms, especially in certain individuals. But the evidence for such individual aggravating circumstances is not strong enough to conclude that they are primary causes of AD/HD.
Some of the most prestigious scientific-based organizations in the world conclude that AD/HD is a real disorder with potentially devastating consequences for the person having it when not properly identified, diagnosed and treated. AD/HD is a commonly seen neuropsychiatric syndrome. It got to do with the nerves, not the intelligence. It is widely spread, and most people know someone who got it.
In most cases, AD/HD is thought to be inherited, and tends to run in some families more than others. AD/HD is a lifespan condition that affects children, teenagers, and adults of all ages. It affects both males and females, and people of all races and cultural backgrounds.
Some common symptoms and problems of living with AD/HD include:
- Poor attention; excessive distractibility
- Physical restlessness or hyperactivity
- Excessive impulsivity; saying or doing things without thinking
- Excessive and chronic procrastination
- Difficulty getting started on tasks
- Difficulty completing tasks
- Frequently losing things
- Poor organization, planning, and time management skills
- Excessive forgetfulness
Not every person with AD/HD displays all of the symptoms, nor does every person with AD/HD experience the symptoms of AD/HD to the same level of severity or impairment/handicap. Some people have mild AD/HD, while others have severe AD/HD, resulting in significant impairments. AD/HD can cause problems in school, in jobs and careers, at home, in family and other relationships, and with tasks of daily living.
AD/HD is a biological condition, most often inherited, that affects certain types of functioning. There is no cure for AD/HD. When properly diagnosed and treated, AD/HD can be well managed, leading to increased satisfaction in life and significant improvements in daily functioning. Many individuals with AD/HD lead highly successful and happy lives. An accurate diagnosis is the first step in learning to effectively manage AD/HD.
Three major subtypes of AD/HD:
- Primarily Inattentive Subtype. The individual mainly has difficulties with attention, organization, and follow-through.
- Primarily Hyperactive/Impulsive. The individual mainly has difficulties with impulse control, restlessness, and self-control.
- Combined Subtype. The individual has symptoms of inattention, impulsivity, and restlessness.
Some of the most common problems include:
- Inconsistent performance in jobs or careers; losing or quitting jobs frequently
- A history of academic and/or career underachievement
- Poor ability to manage day-to-day responsibilities (e.g., completing household chores or maintenance tasks, paying bills, organizing things)
- Relationship problems due to not completing tasks, forgetting important things, or getting upset easily over minor things
- Chronic stress and worry due to failure to accomplish goals and meet responsibilities
- Chronic and intense feelings of frustration, guilt, or blame
Although some AD/HD symptoms are evident since early childhood, some individuals may not experience significant problems until later in life.
Many adults with AD/HD may also have a limited awareness of how AD/HD-related behaviors cause problems for them and have impact on others. In the case of, friendship, married or cohabitating couples, it is to the couple’s advantage for the clinician to interview them together talking about the AD/HD symptoms. It is very importand for a partner or a friend to fully understand AD/HD and be understanding and caring about it. This procedure helps the non-AD/HD spouse, friend or partner develop an accurate understanding and an empathetic attitude concerning the impact of AD/HD symptoms on the relationship, setting the stage for improving the relationship after the diagnostic process has been completed.
Finally, it should be noted that many adults with AD/HD feel deeply frustrated and embarrassed by the ongoing problems caused by their AD/HD. It is very important that the person discuss these problems openly and honestly, and not hold back information due to feelings of shame or fear of criticism. And there must be room for doing that without getting criticism or accusations.
So you who have anyting to do with anyone having AD/HD show understanding and not bad treatment of the person. When you are carless, not caring, blaming and accusing a person for being stupid, irritating, ignorant or what ever you only put an extra burden on the person having AD/HD. They only get more embarrassed, more sad, and the AD/HD may become an even worse thing to cope with. Being a bad friend to a person with AD/HD you only make the relationship worse and more troublesome to handle. Relationships, friendship, and interacting is a co-operation, you also have a responsibility to make it work, not only the one with AD/HD.
Me I do not have AD/HD, but I do my best being a pal to those who have a problem. Do not be nasty to a person with AD/HD. Be helpful. That is being a good person. I wish you will do that too.
Thank you on beforehand.