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Sense for discretion


Sometimes I wonder why some people seem to think it is ok to use the public of others to break a trust and shout out what ever they feel like there and then just because they need it or feel like it. They got no brake, throwing everything out in front of other people. They use the public of others to use it as their personal sick bag letting everything out for everyone to hear and also know who is target and what.

I had such a friend. Her way is unstoppable. Any time she feel like it she spell her gut out in front of all and everything. She is totally blunt and got absolutely no sensitivity what so ever toward the other persons discretion and right to privacy. I have witnessed it myself before when she broke up with her ex. She walked the whole place around and spelled out to everyone everything. Like her private life was everyone’s full right.

She have done it before too, against me. I told her a secret, and she started commenting it loudly in front of a lot of people so they could hear it. This she has done several times. I hate this kind of behaviour in people. They are totally without discretion, they got none. They do not even think of how it feels like being subjected to such. They do not even think of how it feels to stand there and get ones private life or details spelled out in front of others.

And today she did it again. Thing is, we have fallen out of friendship a time ago. Today I sat there minding my own business when she came – and I talked to some people I know. I did not show her one second of interest. I did not even say anything. She did not like that and told me what she thought in front of a lot of people plus other personal details they got nothing to do with. I was angry with her before. This thing did not really help her situation even if she even care what I think. The river under the bridge has run empty and dried out. People behaving like this to me I do not like to have any contact with. They are not to be trusted with anything.

I have told her in plain letters. Next time you see me sit minding my own business you are to leave me alone.

Private matter is to be discussed in private. One do not comment, talk about, point out or discuss sensitive matters in public. It is so rude. I have cut all contact with people before because of such behaviour. I make absolutely no exception. My private life is mine, and I choose what I like others to hear and know, no one else.


Author: Annelie

I like canoeing, photographing, friends, movies, food, humor, and going on trips. I dislike rudeness, dishonesty, violence, nastyness, and people not caring for others. I do not drink much, I do not smoke and I do not do drugs. I love friends who are kind to me and stick with me. If you want to give me a gift, the best gift is to stop smoking and stop using fragranced products. Then you give me health and that dear friend, is the best gift a person can get. It is a gift of love. I got asthma and I am hearing disabled.

2 thoughts on “Sense for discretion

  1. Very interesting and thoughtful reflections over an ex-friend of yours.
    I had a similar experience a while a go. My girlfriend broke up with me.
    You could could say she crushed my heart because I loved her so much.
    It took me over a year to get over her some way.
    Started dating a friend of her later on, we are also workmates.
    To make the story short I found out that we were not meant for each
    other. She became more or less angry and the talk about my
    behaviour went on. No discretion whatsoever. We still work together,
    so the situation is complicated and tense.
    I can strongly relate to what you have experienced.
    It´s sad to loose a friend this way. But what can you do, sometimes it feels


    • Yes, it is always sad when people break ones heart. And some can not even leave it alone and have to disgrase both person and feelings with bad behaviour.

      Maybe not so smart to date the friend though…


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