Fresh air does not smell of fragrance

Frisk luft lukter ikke av parfyme.

Asthma and relationships – by Annelie Molin

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Some time ago I tried a relationship with a guy against better judgement. The better judgement was on more than one level, but here we are talking asthma.

Even though I know I should avoid hooking up with a guy who smokes and uses perfumed products I did. But I started to like him, cause of some of the personal qualities.

He did take notice and care of my sensitivities, and that helped and was one of the reasons I was interested. He aired out before I came and listened when I said enough about some things, even though he did not really change to perfume free products and stop smoking. At a point it was clear to me that would never happen.

Him being caring surely helped, but it do not solve the problem since it is in the persons breath, clothes, skin, hair, hands a.s.o, and also since he used perfumed products for cleaning his home, clothes, and other surfaces and fabrics at home I had it around me a lot during that time. That is like soaking a svamper in water for the lungs.

When he washed his clothes in the perfumed washing agent and perfumed fabric softener, and also using the dryer I could hardly be in the apartment, and really not at all in the kitchen or hallway.

The windows had to be open at all times, regardless of weather.

Being around this chemicals having asthma is a killer. The symptoms from the chemicals on your health comes over you either in a second when being affected big, or slowly when getting slow small dozes over time. Either way ones lungs get cluttered like, and you get trouble breathing.

However due to differences in the way of looking at surtant stuff in life and ways of dealing with it, we split up at one point. (And looking back it was good it happened. We were all to different.) It was after we stopped seeing each other I realized how bad my health had become during the time with him.

Ok, one should think one should know if one get sick? No, I am not stupid, but when it comes creeping over time a bit at the time the changes comes so slowly and are not as easily spotted as with an acute asthma attack.

I had some big asthma attacks due to smoke and perfumed products, and also the sneaking cluttering of the lungs. I had to use a lot of medicine during the period with him,  and after we split I went to less medicine and clearer lungs and breathing.

This is not about pointing accusations to anyone.

It only proves the point of importance of having a smoke and perfume free man.

But a good man without smoke and perfume is so hard to find. Not only one must find one who do not either smoke or use perfume, but it must also fit on the personal level,  and also with friends and family as.

Being sensitive with asthma does not make it any easier finding someone. If it is hard to find someone not having sensitivities, it narrows the possibilities even more having it.

It sucks getting sick from being close to someone. I do not want to try that again.

Breathing freely is important.

Author: Annelie

I like canoeing, photographing, friends, movies, food, humor, and going on trips. I dislike rudeness, dishonesty, violence, nastyness, and people not caring for others. I do not drink much, I do not smoke and I do not do drugs. I love friends who are kind to me and stick with me. If you want to give me a gift, the best gift is to stop smoking and stop using fragranced products. Then you give me health and that dear friend, is the best gift a person can get. It is a gift of love. I got asthma and I am hearing disabled.

One thought on “Asthma and relationships – by Annelie Molin

  1. So sad to se that you made choice to be with someone that did not take any consideration to your asthma. It is never a good idea to let ones health suffer to be with someone. There are people in the world that will actually understand that perfumed products and sigarette smoke makes you ill and stop it to be with you. My personal experience is that there are such people out there, the people that like you for you and treat your handicap as considerate they can.
    Thinking of you!


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