Fresh air does not smell of fragrance

Frisk luft lukter ikke av parfyme.


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#MeToo, og det er ikke okej

Jeg var 15 år og jeg var på besøk hos en venninne, dette var i 1981, vi sto utenfor huset til noen venner av henne og pratet med de andre da en av de eldre guttene kom kjørende i en Volvo. Han gikk ut av bilen og gikk rett mot min venninne som stod med ryggen til, og uten forvarsel tok han henne på puppene bakfra. Jeg såg i øyekroken hva som skjedde og da han løsnet grepet om min venninne og gikk i retning av meg og beveget armene som for å gripe tak i mine,  jeg sto rett ved siden av henne, og jeg merket hendene hans komme fram på framsiden av kroppen min, da snudde jeg på en 5 øring og ga ham en lusing for å avverge angrepet hans. Han snudde, gikk til bilen, og forsvant.

En annen gang skjedde det på en arbeidsplass, jeg jobbet på et varelager som trukkfører, og en kollega sto foran meg og sa “- Se hva jeg har oppdaget..” og kuppet hendene over brystende mine. Jeg klaget på ham til sjefen.

En annen gang var det en kamrat som gjorde noe liknende.

En fjerde gang var det en kollega, denne gangen var det mest en kommentar.

En annen kollega hadde det med å skulle kjenne om jeg hadde strømper på meg, og dro med fingrene på beinene mine. Jeg byttet arbeidsplass noen år senere og joda der var enda en. Hold fingrene unna!

Spørsmål om jeg har stay ups under klærne på jobb? Hva har du med hva jeg har på meg for underkle! Piss off!

For 10 år siden i 2007 søkte jeg etter bolig i avisa, annonsen jeg satte inn var om en leilighet, et av svarene jeg fikk var fra en kar som mente jeg kunne flytte inn hos ham så kunne vi ha seks sa han. Det framgikk tydelig av både rubrikk og innehold i annonsen at det ikke var en kontaktannonse. Man kan jo undre hvordan hodet var skrudd sammen på ham? Helt god var han jo ikke.

I 2017 skulle jeg igjen flytte og søkte bolig, og da skjedde omtrent det samme igjen, men denne gangen ringte en kar som oppgav at han “var singel og ville lære meg bedre å kjenne”, situasjonen gjorde meg irritert og jeg gjorde det klart for ham at det ikke er snakk om en kontaktannonse og så la jeg på. 

En kar tok kontakt på sms og sa han hadde lagt merke til meg, og ville bli bedre kjent. Jeg tenkte han kanskje mente det ærlig, men etter tredje sms begynte han å snakke om å være naken. Så mye for å ønske lære å kjenne MEG. Denne dama er ikke dum, jeg undersøkte navn og telefonnummer på karn og fant ut hvem han var, hvor han jobber, hvor han bor og hvem han bor med. Han var ute i ugjerning med urent mel i posen kan du si og jeg kuttet kontakten umiddelbart. Da ble han sur og fornærmet og sa at der er andre han kan sende meldinger til. Der var visstnok flere på handlebåndet. Som om jeg bryr meg. En kvinne er langt mer enn bare kroppen, der bor også noe i toppen.

Det har skjedd andre ting, ekle fleiper, uønskede kommentarer.

Nå sist i 2017 da jeg annonserte om å få kjøpe ved til vinteren og i anledning den annonsen fikk jeg et uønsket sms på telefonen med seksinnvit som var sendt gjennom en anonymiseringsservice på nett med rå og ekkel språkbruk. Jeg meldte saken til Politiet og følte meg nødt til å skaffe meg hemmelig telefonnummer. Jeg gidder ikke sjikane.

At der er bryster og annet på en kvinne betyr ikke at de er til offentlig adgang, den ideen at det skulle være likt og oppskattet av kvinner å bli klådd på eller kommentert på til offentlig adgang er bare noe som sitter i huet ditt, det er ikke noe som er rotet i virkeligheten.

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An Open Letter To Donald Trump From Some Angry Women.

This should be read:

Lack of respect for women, lack of class, lack of style. How can anyone want such behind the wheel of a country? It is a disgrace.

I think this woman says it all in her blog post:
You can read the whole blog post here:

Drifting Through

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Dear Mr. Trump… can I call you Mr. Trump? Is that ok? I want you to be happy, that’s very important to me.

Before I get started, let me say this letter isn’t from all women. The Trumpettes surely won’t approve of this message. But this is from most women.

We see right through you. We have all known you at some point. Your ways are not unfamiliar to us. We see through you because we’ve been dealing with you our whole lives.

We heard you call women pigs. And disgusting. And stupid. And bimbos.

We watched as you called a former Ms. Universe “Ms. Piggy” and then spent four days continuing to insult her.

We see your weakness. Your lust for attention at any cost, your need to denigrate women. We see all of it. And we’re mad.

Yes. We’re mad. And fired up. And here’s the thing about us……

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Movie tip: Perfume allergy in Billion tv-series

Film tips: Parfyme allergi i Billion tv-serie

Billion er en tv-serie på HBO som handler om aksjehandel, lov og rett og jakten på de som ikke følger loven. I sesong 1 avsnitt 3 (ca 27:52 inn i programmet) før og etter et et møte med klienter reagerar Rhoades på at en Spiris har eau de cologne på seg:

Rhoades: “- Har du på deg cologne?”

Spiros: “- Ja”

Rhoades: “- Herregud!”

Litt lenger inn (ca 29:58) etter at møtet var slutt forteller advokaten hva han mener:

Rhoades: “- Det renner fra øynene mine. Hvor mange liter av den dritten spruter du på deg hver morgen Spiros? Tror du den gir deg et ligg? Et tips: Gjør det ikke!”

Og jeg er gla det blir tatt opp fordi det er et samfunnsproblem at folk tar seg til rette og sprer alkoholer og parfymekjemikalier i luften til plage for andre. Langt fra alle setter pris på å bli utsatt for parfyme.

Er det en bra serie? Den er litt glatt i sin framtoning, handlingen er spill for galleriet i store trekk, det handler om å spille ut hverandre og vinne. Noe som dok ikke er bra er alle sexistiske kommentarer, det er veldig mye som spiller på kvinner på en uverdig måte.  De burde få dagsbøter for hver nedverdigende kommentar om kvinner.

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Screenprint Billion

 

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Movie tip: Perfume allergy in Billion tv-series

Billion is a television series on HBO that’s about trading, law and justice and the pursuit of those who do not follow the law. In season 1 episode 3 (about 27:52 into the program) before and after a meeting with clients reacts Rhoades to that a colleague has cologne on himself:

Rhoades: “-Are you wearing cologne?”

Spiros: “-Yea”

Rhoades: “-Jesus Christ!”

Rhoades: “-You know, my fucking eyes are watering here,  how many pints of that shitty toilet water do you splash on yourself every morning Spiros? Do You think it is may be going to help you get som tail? Here is a tip: It’s not!”

I’m glad it’s being recorded because it is a social problem that people take matters into their own hands spreading alcohols and perfume chemicals in the air tormenting others. Far from all appreciate being exposed to perfume.

Is it a good series? It is a bit superficial in its appearance, the action is mainly for showing, it is about to play out each other and win. What is not good is all the sexist comments, it is very much playing on women in a degrading manner. They should get a fine for every degrading comment.


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Will and knowledge succedes

“Tvil aldri på et en liten gruppe med bevisste og engasjerte borgere kan forandre verden. For til alle tider er det nettopp de som kan få det til.” Margaret Mead

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.” Margaret Mead


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Opinion and menstruation

Menns bemøtende av kvinners standpunkter

I dag opplevde jeg bemøtende av en kar. Jeg sa rett ut og bestemt hva jeg mente om noe. Han spurte: “-Har du mensen?”

Bare fordi man sier meningen sin på skarpen til en kar så skal man måtte få høre at man har mensen?! Dra til helvete!

Hva om vi kvinner skulle nedvurdere alle meninger, tanker og følelser menn har til å være en hormonell forstyrrelse pga pungkulene deres?

Jeg har ikke mensen, jeg har et eget hode å tenke med, jeg har tanker, meninger og følelser. Respektere det.

/ Annelie

In English

Mens reactions to women’s viewpoints

Today I experienced reactions from a man. I said straight out and strongly what I meant about something. He asked: “- Are you menstruating?”

Just because a woman say their opinion with sharpness to a man then one have to listen to  “- Are you menstruating?” ?! Go to hell!

What if us women should disparage any opinions, thoughts and feelings men have to be a hormonal disorder due to their testicles?

I do not have my period, I have a head to think with, I have thoughts, opinions and feelings. Respect it.

/ Annelie


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Er du ikke muslim da er du en hore, forstå det den som kan?

Er du ikke muslim da er du automatisk hore?

Jeg leste et innlegg i Aftenposten i dag der en kvinne forteller om hvordan muslimer ser på dem som ikke er muslimer og ikke anses tro på Gud.

“Anita Farzaneh (43) sitter på trikken og snakker med et familiemedlem.

«As-salamu alaikum!» hører hun plutselig fra en skjeggete, litt eldre mann. Farzaneh aner hva som kommer. Mannen vil sjekke om hun er en av dem, en god muslim. Denne muslimske måten å hilse på opplever hun som en test. Men Farzaneh har ikke tenkt til å late som. Hun svarer med det verdslige «hei!».

Mannen venter litt, før han sier, høyt og tydelig for alle i trikken:

«Er du ikke muslim?» Nei, svarer hun. «Hvorfor har du så kort skjørt?» Det er mitt valg, sier hun, og da kommer det: «Du er vantro og hore! Du kom bare hit for å få fri sex og alkohol!»” Aftenposten

Vantro, smake litt å det ordet, å si det ordet det er å være hovmodig – å mene at man er bedre enn andre. Hva sier Islam om hovmod? Er det en god egenskap?

Jeg er Skandinav, jeg er ikke muslim, jeg drikker ikke, jeg røyker ikke, jeg bruker ikke dop, jeg kler meg som jeg vil og jeg er ikke på byen og ragger menn for å ha sex. Dette er noe jeg har valgt selv, uten at noen har fortalt meg hva å gjøre, hverken foreldre eller noen andre. Godhet kommer fra innsiden. Det går fint an å være et fint og godt menneske, gå i skjørt og uten å være muslim. Det er ikke lengden på skjørtet eller valg av religion som bestemmer hvor mye godhet du har på innsiden, det bestemmer din innstilling til livet.

Ordet hore er en slangbetydning av en person som selger kroppen for penger. Om vi leser på Wikipedia:
Prostitusjon er salg av seksuelle tjenester mot betaling eller for andre gjentjenester. En person som selger seksuelle tjenester kalles på norsk for en prostituert eller sexarbeider. … I samfunnsdebatten benyttes ofte ordene “hore” for den som er den prostituerte, og “horekunde” for den som kjøper tjenesten av den prostituerte. Begge ordene er negativt ladet i det norske språk.” Wikipedia

Det virker litt uintelligent på meg at man drar liknelsen ved en ikke muslim og en hore spør du meg. Litt trangbodd i hodet som min far ville sagt om han hadde levd. Man er ikke automatisk hore fordi man ikke er muslim eller ikke tror på Gud.

Og skal ikke muslimer respektere folk av andre religioner, s.k. “Folk av boken”?

Mangel på oppdragelse, uforskammethet og hovmod er ikke en god egenskap. Jeg undrer hvor i Islam det står at det er okej?

/ Annelie

Kilde:
http://www.aftenposten.no/nyheter/iriks/Eksmuslimer-i-Norge-forteller-Derfor-bryter-vi-med-islam-8205710.html
https://no.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prostitusjon


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A Muslim who Think Canada Should Ban the Niqab and Burka in Public

Today I read a article in Huffington Post that I find both good, right and interesting. It is good she comes out with this information, if someone like myself or any other non-muslim person would do that one risk to get the rasist flag smashed in ones face. The article is

As a Muslim, I Think Canada Should Ban the Niqab and Burka in Public

A Muslim mother who never saw a niqab when she was growing up in Karachi, Pakistan, she is astonished to see Canada’s judiciary caving in to Islamists who have nothing but contempt for Canada’s values of gender equality.

She says: “In the 25 years I have called Canada home, I have seen a steady rise of Muslim women being strangled in the pernicious black tent that is passed off to naïve and guilt-ridden white, mainstream Canadians as an essential Islamic practice.

The niqab and burka have nothing to do with Islam.

They’re the political flags of the Muslim Brotherhood, ISIS, the Taliban, al-Qaida and Saudi Arabia.

Now I learn I have not only to fight the medieval, theocratic adherents of my faith for a safe space for myself, I have to battle the Federal Court of Canada as well, which has come out on the side of these face masks.

The ruling concerns the case of Zunera Ishaq, a 29-year-old woman who emigrated to Canada from Pakistan in 2008.

After previously showing her face to an immigration official in 2013 when taking her citizenship test, she refused to take part in the citizenship ceremony because she would have to show her face while taking the oath of citizenship.

Prime Minister Stephen Harper’s government rightly banned face masks at such ceremonies, but this was found to be unlawful by the Federal Court.

With all due respect, let me introduce our Canadian judges to their Pakistani colleagues in the jihadi badlands of Peshawar.

In November 2004, the Chief Justice of the Peshawar High Court (PHC), Tariq Pervaiz Khan, ordered female lawyers not to wear face veils in courtrooms, saying they couldn’t be identified, nor assist the court properly while wearing veils.

He scolded the niqabi women saying,”You are professionals.”

Covering the face is not a religious requirement for Muslim women.

The injunction in the Qur’an is for modesty (for men and women).

Some Muslim women interpret this as covering their head with a scarf or chador.

A scholar of Islamic history, Prof. Mohammad Qadeer of Queen’s University, Kingston, wrote in the Globe and Mail in March 2006:

“The argument about concealing one’s face as a religious obligation, is contentious and is not backed by the evidence.”

He added, “in Western societies, the niqab also is a symbol of distrust for fellow citizens and a statement of self-segregation. The wearer of a face veil is conveying: ‘I am violated if you look at me.'”

It is a barrier in civic discourse. It also subverts public trust.”

The federal Liberals and NDP are treating Canada’s niqabis as latter-day Rosa Parks, fighting for justice.

This is vote-bank politics that is, as my friend and secular activist Tarek Fatah calls it, “sharia Bolshevism.”

There is just one way forward: The next government must legislate the complete ban on wearing face masks in public, not just to expose the hypocrisy of the Islamists but for the sake of our security as well.” Huffiington Post

And this is my claim also. I have read about the use of burqa, niqab and such garments for some years and and found that

Purdah or Pardaa (from Persian: پرده, meaning “curtain”) is the practice of concealing women from men. According to one definition:

Purdah is a curtain which makes sharp separation between the world of man and that of a woman, between the community as a whole and the family which is its heart, between the street and the home, the public and the private, just as it sharply separates society and the individual.

This takes two forms: physical segregation of the sexes, and the requirement for women to cover their bodies and conceal their form. Purdah exists in various forms in the Islamic world and among Hindu women in parts of India.

This segregational issues is taken even further than only clothing, and women many places are not allowed to leave the house without their father, brother, cousin, husband or other male relative. They are not allowed to go to school, work, meet in groups, or in any way blend with the opposite sex. This leads to non equality between theh sexes and this is a really disturbing practise. It give men the upper hand to do what they want and rule the lives of the women while women have no say in the matter.  Read more here in my blog post about it and also see My Stealthy Freedom (آزادی یواشکی زنان در ایران‎) and follow their Facebook and visit their website mystealthyfreedom.net/en/
Personally I do not agree with face covering at alle regardless of reason because it makes the person anonymous and I am not able to see who I am talking to, if the person is tru, is lying, is happy, sad, angry, aggressive, feel well or is sick. The person is deporsonalized and it is literally as talking to a curtain.

At work I do not like when people enter to the desk vailed or masked regardless of reason, and when it is not acrually a rule that women shall cover all it is wrong to make claims for it. Beside that I do not like covering of women since it is a wrong against equal rights between men and women.

Source and read the whole article at:
http://www.huffingtonpost.ca/raheel-raza/niqab-burka-ban-canada_b_8189112.html?ncid=fcbklnkcahpmg00000001


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How School Dress Codes Shame Girls and Perpetuate Rape Culture

I agree it is very narrow minded. I am a bus driver and meet a lot of people every day. I will tell you a story that shows it is not only very narrow minded, but also really naive.

Everyone normally agree to that every person in life is responsible for their own actions and if you commit crime you can be punished for it. If you steal something you take something and get punished for doing so. Stealing is taking something without the owners permission. But when a man gets distracted or even rape, read take a woman’s body without permission, it is all the suddon people blaming the person of the stolen body, read the rape victim who is told they have a responsibility to not get raped.

Is being dressed a crime?

Men are responsible for their own thoughts and actions, those who disagree and think women have responsibility for mens thougts and actions, puts men on the same level as children who we must protect from doing the wrong things, teach how to think, pick up after a.s.o. Men who want to be looked upon as adults should take responsibility for their own actions and thoughts – If you are tempted look away. Do something else.

Or do all men have a disorder – read not all right in their mind – that they are not able to act like fully responsible adults since women have to do this for them? Women are just as little responsible for mens thoughts and actons as the owner of bike who gets his /hers bike or any other item stolen. Women are not something men are entitled to.

Only female dress codes are also naive:

Men like to walk the town in summer in just shorts and sandals, as a bus driver I sit close to people getting on the bus. The notion that women should dress in a special way to not distract men or getting raped is way out of line. Not only because it is victim blaiming and projecting of responsibility on another person than the person responsible for their own actions and thoughts, but it is also in all naive. Well, I sit about 30 cm (0.984251969 feet (1113⁄16 inches)) from people standing before me in the bus. Back to the males who enter the bus only wearing shorts and sandals. Well there I sit with my eyes just in hight with mens chests and if they are tall even lower, and they are almost naked. The naive in this is the notion that women can not be distracted. I get shy and do not know where to look. But I take responsibility for my thougts and actions (not that I am a person who rape but anyway) and put my concentration on the ticket machine. I am a responsible adult and do not blame others. But of course they could at least wear a tank top, t-shirt or a shirt, that would be the nice and polite thing to do.

I think that women who are at least dressed are ok, at least they are dressed what is more than one often can say about men who walk around almost naked. Women do not walk around town or school without clothes, and even if they did, it is not allowed to herrass or rape them regardless. You do not see women rape half-naked men in the streets do you?

And on top of it all, science have stated many years ago that rape is not about sex, rape is about violence and power against defenceless persons. They do it because they can. You can get raped even if you are dressed in a 2 meter long potato sack.

If you are a man, do show that you are a resposible person, do not be that person who need a mommy to think for you. You alone are responsible for your thoughts and actions.

TIME

Some of our most powerful and lasting ideas about the world around us are learned at school. Hard work pays off. Success comes from working together. Girls’ bodies are dangerous and harassment is inevitable.

This might sound inflammatory, but it is not an exaggeration. It is the overriding message being sent to thousands of students around the world by sexist school dress codes and the way in which they are enforced.

In the past month alone a Canadian teen says she was given detention for wearing a full length maxi dress because it violated her school dress code by showing her shoulders and back and a UK school announced plans to ban skirts altogether.

These are just the most recent cases in an ever-growing list that has seen shoulders and knees become a battleground, leggings and yoga pants banned and girls in some cases reportedly told to flap their arms…

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#jegharopplevd #seksuelltrakassering

Seksuelle trakasserier

Cathrin Svanevik Frøyen startet knaggen #jegharopplevd og skrev om hva hun hadde opplevd:

“«Jeg hadde pyntet meg og var ute på byen i høst. En stund før jeg fylte 36. Jeg stod med venninnene min på utestedet Contra i Bergen da skjørtet mitt ble løftet opp. Da jeg forstod det, stoppet alt opp. Nei! Ikke nå! Ikke igjen! Jeg snudde meg og fikk se en gruppe særdeles velstelte menn i førtiårene stå og glise. De hadde sett rompa mi, som den ser ut i truse og strømpebukse, mot min vilje, og nå lo de av meg. Jeg skammet meg»” Cathrin Svanevik Frøyen

“Etter at Frøyen hadde skrevet sin kronikk, ble innholdet stilt i tvil på sosiale medier. «Bør vi ta inn over oss denne kvinnevirkeligheten?», spurte spaltisten Kjetil Rolness på sin Facebook-side. Han kalte opplevelsene Frøyen fortalte om for «paranoide generaliseringer om menn». Det fikk redaktørene i det feministiske tidsskriftet Fett til å sette i gang en aksjon, der de oppfordret alle som har blitt utsatt for seksuell trakassering til å dele sine historier med kodeord #jegharopplevd på sosiale medier. I tillegg til Trygdekontor-debatten, husker Frøyen godt NRK-programmet Radioresepsjonens bruk av ordet knulledokke om bloggeren Sophie Elise Isachsen (19) i fjor. – Det jeg opplevde i den debatten, er at mange menn ikke anerkjenner problemet. De definerer bort temaet, fordi de ikke ser problemet. Det skjer ikke med vilje, men fordi det er vanskelig å forstå. Når vi som er voksne kvinner protesterer over en slik sjargong, er det på grunn av at vi har disse erfaringene. Det er ikke fordi vi er krenket eller er er ofre, sier Frøyen.” Bergens Tidende

Og jeg er helt enig med Frøyen, det er ikke fordi vi er er ofre og sytepaver, det er fordi vi har disse erfaringene og det er uakseptabelt.

Siden har tusenvis av andre kvinner fulgt henne. På 140 tegn på Twitter rekker man i grunn ikke å si så mye på knaggen #jegharopplevd. Så jeg velger å bruke bloggen.

Jeg har opplevd å bli seksuelt trakassert.

Jeg var ikke utfordrende kledd, jeg flørtet ikke med dem, det skjedde i helt hverdagslige situasjoner, jeg bad dem ikke om det, inviterte ikke til det, og det var ikke velkomment.

Til forskjell til myten om at den som blir utsatt for slik kjenner skam så har jeg aldri følt skam, derimot har jeg kjent meg trist og lei meg, at dem ikke eier respekt og oppdragelse, jeg ble krenket, jeg ble sint, og kjente meg ydmyket. Jeg gjorde ikke noe galet. Skammen tilhører dem som krenket meg, og det har jeg alltid ment.

Første gang jeg husker det skjedde var faktisk ei jente i 6 klasse i klassen min som etter gymnastikkleksjonen tok tak i blusen min for å sjekke brystene mine. “- Du har jo bryster!” sa hun. Jeg ble fullstendig satt ut og fant ikke noe å si, også om jeg ikke likte det hun gjorde. Det var ubehagelig.

Den neste gangen det skjedde var da jeg var 16 år og jeg og en venninne stod sammen utenfor huset til noen av hennes venner. Vi var helt alminnelig kledde med bukse, knelangt skjørt, t-skjorte uten utringning og jakke på. Det var helg og vi hadde samlets der og sto i en gruppe og bare pratet i all alminnelighet. Noen satt i trappen og noen av oss stod. Da kom en bil kjørende med en kar bak rattet, en bekjent av noen av de andre. Han gikk ut av bilen og gikk i retning av min venninne som stod til høyre for meg og mellom meg og ham. Han gikk direkte mot min venninne og tok henne på begge brystene bakfra, flirte og snudde og gikk med hendene i samme høyde mot meg og jeg skjønte at han skulle gjøre det samme mot meg. Han gikk nært og var på vei med hendene rundt meg bakfra men han rakk ikke å ta tak i brystene mine fordi jeg rakk å snu meg og verne meg. Det var en svært ubehagelig situasjon. Vi sto bare og pratet med venner og han antastet oss.

Noen år senere var jeg med noen kamrater på byen på togstasjonen, vi stod bare og pratet helt normalt. Jeg hadde en overall på meg som var moderne den gang. Vi samtalet om hverdagslige ting da en av gutta strakk fram handen og tok på brystet mitt mitt på togperrongen. Jeg ble veldig lei meg. Det likte jeg ikke. Jeg følte det som om jeg var mindre verd da han gjorde det.

Og så var det han som forsøkte kysse meg mot min vilje, jeg snudde meg unna.

En annen gang var på jobben på et varelager der jeg kjørte gaffeltrukk. Vi hadde hatt litt lett pausegymnastikk der vi var flere som deltok, og etterpå sto og pratet. Vi var i arbeidsklær og vernesko og jeg hadde både t-skjorte og jakke på meg. Ikke utfordrende i det hele tatt. De andre gikk og det sto igjen en  kar foran meg og han strekker hendene fram og sier mens han grafser på brystene mine “- Se hva jeg har oppdaget.” Jeg ble krenket og sint og rapporterte ham til avdelingslederen.

Jeg hadde lang vei til jobben på varelageret og sto opp tidlig for å gå på jobb og kom seint hjem. Det var en tung jobb og jeg hadde 4 timer reise med tog og buss hver dag for å komme til og fra jobben. En dag da jeg satt på toget sovnet jeg helt utmattet. Jeg satt på en sofa med folk på hver side og på motsatt side satt 3 personer. Toget var fult av folk, både sittende og stående. Jeg sovnet altså sittende ikledd collegegenser og dongeri, ikke utfordrende i det hele tatt, og da jeg våkner sitter en kar midt imot og beføler seg selv utenpå klærne og ser på meg. Jeg reagerte med sjokk og vantro, både over ham og det faktum at ingen i togvognen gjorde noe.

Senere var det ekskjaresten min som klarte å gjøre slik å klå på brystene mine i samme rom som andre. Vi var i og for seg kjærester, men det er ikke greit å gjøre slik blant folk. Jeg ble krenket, opprørt og sint.

En annen gang det skjedde var da jeg jobbet i en vaskehall. En kar fra en annen avdeling enn der jeg jobbet tråkket over grensen for hva som er akseptabelt. Jeg sto der i arbeidsklær iført skitne bukse, t-skjorte, skitten jakke og vernesko og var nettopp ferdig med å spyle gulvet, så jeg bare pauset to minutt og sto bare der. Jeg sa bare “- Hei” til ham for å være hyggelig kollega da han kom inn i hallen, da går han rett mot meg. Da han kommer nært holder han fram hendene foran brystene og sier at han har sett disse, og syfter til brystene mine. Han tar ikke på dem men han står der med hendene i kuppel foran brystene mine og gliser. Det var helt ugreit og jeg mislikte det sterkt. Jeg hadde ikke ventet slik oppførsel og ble litt satt ut. Uten å gjøre noe mer gikk han. Jeg stod der etterpå og var sjokkert, lei meg og sint.

En annen situasjon på en arbeidsplass var da vi satt ute i solen. Jeg hadde skjørt og hvit bluse på meg og skjørtet gikk til kneet. En kollega som satt ved siden av meg drog fingeren over leggen min, og unnskyldte seg med at han ville se om jeg hadde strømper på meg. Jeg likte ikke det. Han hadde ingenting på leggene mine å gjøre.

En tidligere venn av meg, eller rettere sagt noen jeg trodde var en god venn, oppførte seg kvalmt på tur. Vi for på tur i lag med bilen, han hadde tidligere behandlet meg med respekt og ikke gjort noe slik før, men da vi for på tur mente han at vi kunne jo ha litt sex fordi vi var på tur sammen, han mann og jeg dame. Jeg ble bare kvalm. Jeg er ikke noen tur-hore.

Dette er kvalm oppførsel alltihop. Det er helt uakseptabelt.

Slik oppførsel sier mere om dem som gjør slik enn dem som blir utsatt for det. Det sier en del om deres tanker. En kvinne er ikke et åpent smørgåsbord tilgjengelig å forsyne seg av. Vis respekt og styr unna.

Den neste som gjør slik blir meldt til politiet.

Jeg har også hørt andre jeg kjenner gjennom jobb og privat fortelle om ting som er helt uakseptabelt. En tidligere kollega fortalte meg om da hun søkte jobb og ble spurt om å gi arbeidsgiver oralseks for å i det hele tatt få jobben. En gammel nabo av meg ble i løpet av noen få år dopet ned og voldtatt tre ganger.

Og selvfølgelig skal kvinner ikke heller gjøre slike ting.

/ Annelie

Annet i samme knagg #jegharopplevd

“«Hey Banggren, jeg skulle så gjerne kjørt deg i toer’n!» Da jeg kom hjem, gråt jeg. Ville en eldre, respektert mannlig Toyota-selger bli behandlet på denne måten dersom han prøvde å gjøre jobben sin? var min første tanke. Svaret ble selvsagt raskt nei.” Kristine Banggren (20)
http://www.aftenposten.no/meninger/sid/Hey-Banggren_-jeg-skulle-sa-gjerne-kjort-deg-i-toern-7983651.html

“Vi var 14 år gamle og hadde sommerferie. Min venninne,som var tidlig utviklet, var antrukket et ganske alminnelig denimskjørt med en tilhørende topp til. Vi var fnisete tenåringer, rusa på skolefri og det faktum at vi nå endelig var blitt gamle nok til å kjøpe oss to cheeseburgere helt på egenhånd. På vei oppover i trappa med brettene våre kom en gjeng med høylytte, middelaldrende menn mot oss. De var nesten forbi da sistemann i rekka plutselig strakk hånda fram og plasserte den godt oppunder skjørtet på min venninne.” Madeleine Schultz
http://www.dagbladet.no/2015/04/16/kultur/meninger/kommentar/debatt/likestilling/38718656

“Etter at jeg takket ja og begynte i stillingen var han ene på avdl veldig hyggelig. Jeg drev å spurte de andre om de også hadde fått velkoms-sms, etc. Det hadde de ikke. Som tiden gikk ble det bare mer og jeg syntes det ble ganske ubehagelig. Uten å gå i detaljer så merket og så jeg på sms-aktivteten og andre hendelser at dette ikke var “normalt”. Det var da veldig så “på” og ubehagelig. Ting som ble skrevet, sagt foran meg og hele pakken gjorde meg redd.”
http://www.teamsolli.com/2015/04/15/jegharopplevd-a-bli-trakassert-i-forsvaret/

«#jegharopplevd å bli vaginalt penetrert på konsert fordi jeg var ikledd skjørt, han var kåt og visste jeg ikke hadde noe sted å gå».” Linn Emilie Hexeberg
http://www.nettavisen.no/nyheter/innenriks/–det-er-skummelt-og-forkastelig/3422776886.html

” Disse marginale stemmene utmerker seg nemlig med en helt enestående mangel på empati. Slik de kommer til uttrykk for eksempel i Twitter-samtalen rundt #jegharopplevd – tilsynelatende normale, voksne menn som møter såre og personlige historier, slike som det krever stort mot og en ikke ubetydelig personlig risiko å bringe inn i offentligheten, med en strøm av forakt og det som verre er, inkludert beskyldninger om både løgn og «horete oppførsel».” Martin Bjørnersen
http://www.dagbladet.no/2015/04/17/kultur/meninger/debatt/jegharopplevd/feminisme/38724732/

“«Alle menn» trakasserer ikke, voldtar ikke, truer ikke. Men alle menn bør lese hva de har å si, og forsøke å forstå.” Mathias Fischer
http://www.bt.no/meninger/Da-damene-slo-tilbake-3340329.html

“- Jeg ser på dette som et uttrykk for at nok er nok. Vi finner oss ikke i dette lenger! Vi kan ikke ha det slik, sier hun.- Kvinner får høre at «dette må du tåle» Hun reagerer på at kvinner ofte får høre at det er de som er hårsåre. – Dette er et samfunnsproblem som må tas på største alvor. Noe av det som ryster og beveger meg mest, er at kvinner får høre at «dette må du tåle, for dette er så vanlig». Da er vi med på å bagatellisere det, sier Ørstavik, som er glad for kampanjen.” Sunniva Ørstavik Likestillingsombud
http://www.aftenposten.no/kultur/–Nok-er-nok-Vi-finner-oss-ikke-i-dette-lenger–7982979.html


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Kom da kuken om “fitte og pils”

“Fitte og pils”

“Fabian Bache-Mathiesen (18) er bussjef for guttebussen som står bak arrangementet. Han stiller seg uforstående til kritikken og mener at et armbånd med påskriften «Fitte og pils» ikke har noe med sexistiske holdninger å gjøre. Bache-Mathiesen mener videre at debattinnlegget drar saken ut av proporsjoner.” Aftenposten.no

Nei, han skjønner ikke noe han, det han sier med ordene  «Fitte og pils» er jo at kom og få deg litt fitte og pils, omtrent som man andre steder sier kom og få deg en pils og litt mat. Selger han  «Fitte og pils»? Tilbyr han  «Fitte og pils»? Hvilken jenter er det han har på menyen? Er jenter en meny? Makaløst smakløst i det minste og svært seksistisk.

Jenter og kvinner er ikke fitter.  Jenter og kvinner er personer.

Kvinner og jenter er mere enn det som er mellom beinen. Fokusere på det. Hvis mannfolka i russen vil ha slik opplegg og de mener slik er ok, skriv hellre Kuk og pils så kan jentene velge menyene selv.

Neste gang vi skal rope på Fabian Bache-Mathiesen, da sier vi ikke

– Kom gut, vi skal gå nå.

Vi ser alle

– Kom da kuken!

Spørs om han skjønner poenget da?

Les: Russejenter tar oppgjør med sexistiske holdninger
http://www.aftenposten.no/nyheter/iriks/Russejenter-tar-oppgjor-med-sexistiske-holdninger-7924011.html

Les også:
http://www.aftenposten.no/meninger/debatt/Bare-ord–eller-seksuell-trakassering-7933093.html

/ Annelie


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The mass media impression and women

Mass media Impression

Are you one of those who claim that it not so problematic with how women are portrait by media, marketing and fashion industry?

When you add it all up in one place you get a clear picture, and it is not only in the US, it is everywhere in the world.


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@MikeBuchanan11 leader of Justice for Men and Boys

Mike Buchanan, leader of Justice for Men and Boys

I just read: ‘Feminists hate men’: Meet Mike Buchanan, the leader of Britain’s new Justice for Men and Boys party 

” Buchanan believes that men are perceived as having no value beyond financial. “We have no worth beyond our value to others,” he said, “whereas women are born with worth, they grow up knowing they’re valuable. Women don’t get this, that men just have no worth as human beings except in how they support women and children.”

Well here is patriarchy for you created through generations of patriarchy.  In the beginning women were not allowed to work when married, vote, own, inherit, study, speak in public, talk and be in politics and so on and men had every and all rights to this. Patriarchy traditions that the male should be the provider and ruler of society. Traditions inherited through generations until women got sick of it and started to work for getting those rights and fight against it. This is Feminism and feminists. It just makes me wonder if Mr Buchanan has a bad feeling of lack of self-worth and want to tag it on women? If he really want not to be the provider then he should really become a feminist since feminists want to be self-sufficient, stong and capable, and not have to rely on men financially all the time. Feminists want to be active in politics, share views and participate in society. This do not make us hate men, we like men but we want the freedom to not live under dogma, and have the same possibilities, rights and so on as men. To be valued by our personal worth and not by our looks and sex.

“Buchanan quit the Tory party in 2009, after David Cameron announced support for all-women parliamentary candidate shortlists and has applied himself to promoting anti-feminism, and has written three books on the topic. As well as saying that feminism is “vile”, Buchanan and his party also believe that “fatherhood is being systematically removed from society” which means “taxpayers are subsidising sperm banks for single women and lesbians”.”

Surely there are enough to go around for both men and women to find a partner of the opposite sex and to raise a family. I do not think neither women or lesbians are looking for and working for matriarchy and terminating men. It should be free of choise to marry.

Buchanan says ” We also take issue with governments continuing to spend large amounts of taxpayers’ money ‘encouraging’girls and young women into STEMM (science, technology, engineering, mathematics and medicine) subjects and careers. These subjects were historically the routes to careers for many young men, yet the government is spending £30 million ‘encouraging’ women into engineering careers, although women have for decades expressed little interest in engineering as a career choice.” and Party leader Mike Buchanan, a former Conservative party consultant told The Independent:

“If you look at it from a gynocentric” (refers to a dominant or exclusive focus on women in theory or practice; or to the advocacy of this) “perspective, [you say] that all our concern must be for women and girls, to the absolute exclusion of men and boys, they can go home – literally if they want to – [we’re] pointing out that women are not these divine creatures.”

Feminism is not out to seek to rule out the participation of men in society, and it is not giving women and girls more rights than men and boys. Feminism is giving women the same rights, opportunities and obligations as men, and the other way around.

For taking the part of loosing the children in a divorce for example (since this is part of the article), custody should be 50/50 unnless there are heavily waying reasons that either parent is not suitable. Parents (both men and women) should also remember that the kids are not your property, they are their own persons and should be respected as such. If you as parents have a problem with each other it is nothing that should affect the children. Children are not your tools to self fulfilment.

If we take a promenade down history lane and look back on facts in society firstly women were not allowed to education and certainly not higher education,  those having these privileges were men. Women started the feminist movement to change this, thereby the name Feminism. The boys club did not want woman working in higher standard jobs as engineers, doctors and so on. Back, way back men even saw women as less capable to such jobs, and women were not accepted. Being unwanted many women have felt discouraged to take educations with the boys club, this have then colored the tradition of choosing education,  therefore women are suggested to try to take education as engineers, doctors and such. The boys club are also famous for seeking colleges among friends in the boys club and woman have had a hard time to get in the club. This is discouraging.

About domestic violence and rape Buchanan claims that women batter men as much as men batters women. Statistically and reportedly it is not true. Yes men are battered and raped too, but not as often as women are raped and battered. Though I do think there should be places to go for men who are battered. The problem with women being in a situation where they have been and often still are in an economically dependency of the man they end up being in even another grip that is the lack of means to flee. Not only because they are weak, but because they have no money. Like this the story have been way back and that is why there are so many options for women to flee and hide in safe housing. Historically the need for women to have safe housing have made the amount of the safe housing grow. No one says men are not battered and no one says men can not be raped, at least I do no mean that, and I actually agree there should be safe housing for battered men too. But you do not need to be anti-feminist to say that.

Buchanan says “It should be obvious to the reader that the flip side of ‘advancing the careers of women’ must be ‘holding back the careers of men’.”

That is ridiculous, I am actually sitting here laughing my head off. What a comedian!  There is surely room for both men and women to work in society.

Before one opens ones mouth to speak one must know what it is about and know ones history.

Buchanan says “Feminists hate men” Now this is a plain lie. I do not hate men, being a feminist is not hating men. Being feminist is working for equal rights, opportunities BETWEEN the sexes. That both men and women should have equal rights.

If you are anti-feminist, you are for a fact against women’s rights. And then you are at the same time cutting your own limits and rights since women are as a fact 50 % of the population if not more, and when you cut in the possibilities of the women you are back to being the soul provider and the money bag. You say that you do not like to be the money bag, so why not be a feminist then?

Men who say they have to little rights when it comes to caring and fatherhood should salubrate feminism since when women have the right and possibility to work and be equal then men have the opportunity to be at home being a father if he wants. When women work to get their rights to work, and childcare the side effect of this is often that men get more rights to do the same as women had as a soul right to before.

Instead of hating feminism you should actually work with feminists to get what you want for men. Feminism is for equality between the sexes.

Source: http://www.independent.co.uk/news/people/feminists-hate-men-meet-mike-buchanan-the-leader-of-britains-new-justice-for-men-and-boys-party-9977357.html


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Feminazi

The word Feminazi origins from Limbaugh In 1992 Book The Way Things Ought to Be  Limbaugh say “I Prefer To Call The Most Obnoxious Feminists What They Really Are: Feminazis” (Mediamatters).  The term is associated with the American radio host Rush Limbaugh, indicating that the term was coined by his friend, economics professor Tom Hazlett (Wikipedia).

In this book he claims his right to disrespect women and their right to both have and fight for reproductive health including abortion by saying:

“feminazi” as “a woman to whom the most important thing in life is seeing to it that as many abortions as possible are performed.” Source: “Feminazi”: The History Of Limbaugh’s Trademark Slur Against Women

First of all, that any woman is interested in having as many abortions as possible is totally redicilous. No one have an abortion like a Sunday dinner and enjoy it, and one do not collect abortions. And no one work for to “seeing to that as many abortions as possible are performed”. What is worked for is the right to do it when needed, not to run a marathon in abortions.  Mr. Limbaugh is way out of line.

Reading Wikipedia’s and Geek Feminism’s texts about the word Feminazi we can read:
“The term is formed from the words feminist and Nazi, the word is used derogatory.” Wikipedia
“Feminazi is a derogatory term used against feminists to remove power and portray them as irrational, ill-guided and dangerous militants.” Geek Feminism Wikia

The word Feminazi is designed to surpress and deminish women and their right to freedom of speech and to talk and work for their cause. In a debate one is ought to be respectful something Mr. Limbaugh and his followers in the use of this word is not.

He later started to use this word feminazi to herass women in any way when he thought ill of what they say. The word is then picked up and used all over the world.

Using the word Feminazi against feminists is not only a disgrace towards the feminists but also towards all the millions of jews and others who died during the first and the second world war. and it is a disgrace to the one who uses it. The word holocaust and nazi should not be used in vain.

Calling people #feminazi because they have an opinion is disrespectful. It is rude and bad behaviour, and also a kind of powertrip by those who use such ways to meet others in conversation. The aim is to shut the feminist up and weaken the person talked to. I find you who use this word a week an sad person who can not converse with others without stepping on them.

We have all a right to talk freely, but that do not iclude name calling, cursing, shaming and being disrespectful. See human rights.

One should always meet conversation in a respectful and constructive manner.

About Feminism:
Feminism, by its nature, embraces the belief that all people are entitled to freedom and liberty including equal civil rights and that discrimination should not be made based on gender, sexual orientation, skin color, ethnicity, religion, culture, or lifestyle.

About Nazi / Nazism:
A Nazi is a person with the ideology of Nazism which is another word for National Socialism (German: Nationalsozialismus and the full name of Adolf Hitler’s party was Nationalsozialistische Deutsche Arbeiterpartei (National Socialist German Workers’ Party; NSDAP), associated with the 20th-century German Nazi Party and other far-right groups. Usually characterised as a form of fascism that incorporates racism, scientific racism, discriminates on religion, culture, sexuality and antisemitism. Nazism originally developed from the influences of pan-Germanism, the Völkisch German nationalist movement and the anti-communist Freikorps paramilitary culture in post-First World War Germany, which many Germans felt had been left humiliated by the Treaty of Versailles. German Nazism subscribed to theories of racial hierarchy and social Darwinism; the Germanic peoples — also referred to as the Nordic race — were considered to be the purest representation of Aryanism, and therefore the master race. Nazism is not working for equality in any way.

Feminism and Nazi are two totally different ideologies. So you see when you use the word Feminazi you only show your total lack of knowledge and intelligence.

It is called feminist and feminism.

Annelie


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Why it is called feminism

Feminism for me is equal rights, possibilities and obligations between the men and women. It is working against discrimination. It is not hating men, it is having the same possibilities, rights and oblligations between the sexes. Not only for women, but for men too.


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The view on women in Society @MileyCyrus #RapCulture #MileyCyrus #rap #NotBuyingIt

Culture

Miley Cyrus provides all women disrepute. She is a disgrace to women. I would not give a dime for the conserts. Is this a good role model for young people? No wonder girls are struggling with such a cultural phenomenon. There is something wrong with the culture when women always portrayed as horny hores and men as dressed and strong. I see no equality between the sexes here, nor is there anything moral about this way of portraying people. Women are more than sexuality. Rap culture has an overall red tread where women become exploitation objects and sexual objects. I do not see music where the men are doing so about themselves in this way. And this is supposed to be a role model for young people, both girls and boys? Continue reading


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23 Ways #Feminists Have Made the World Better for Women

I just read a fantastic article about the womens rights fighters when it startet and on. I just want to share this one. I have also read about womens rights fighters in Scandinavia and other places. I feel sad and upset over women talking against womens rights, aka feminism, they show real ignorance about the history of women. They live in a kind of a bubble believing it was not as bad. Before you open your mouth and have a opinion you should read and learn about how it really was to be a woman and the consequenses it held before we got all of those wonderful women fighting for our rights. How I want to show you the article I read today.

“It may seem like a bizarrely obvious statement, but somewhere between earning women the right to vote, pushing through legislation opening up universities to female students and advancing the civil rights movement (to name just a very few examples), feminism has indeed made life much, much better (and as a result, happier) — not just for women, but men as well. Far removed from the stereotypical and inaccurate image of the bra-burning activist, feminists have proven time and time again that women’s rights are human rights.”

http://www.policymic.com/articles/87809/23-ways-feminists-have-made-the-world-better-for-women

About ‪#‎SlutWalk‬ being a movement created by young women who are sick and tired of being herrassed and abused by men.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/slutwalks-and-the-future-of-feminism/2011/06/01/AGjB9LIH_story.html

In some countries and also through times in history clothes have been used to keep women on a leash and hold them in place, still in 2014 clothes are used like this in some religions and traditions. Such women also get abused, raped and violated. The dressing like a “slut” is not the key. The real problem is the aggression and mentality of the men abusing the women. It is in their head and their responsibility.

Being attracted to women is not the same as being a abuser. All men need to learn to see, appreciate, not touch and treat women like human beings, not like something taken for granted being available. Men need to learn how to ask for permission and take NO for an answer.

Thing is that in a world filled with only good men, women could walk naked in the streets without being herrassed and molested.

Annelie


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Saudi women driving movement

I have translated the article:

“Claiming women destroys the ovaries to drive
A Saudi minister asks women put reason ahead of emotions and warns them not to break the prohibition to drive yourself.

Should we believe the conservative minister Sheikh Saleh al – Lohaidan in Saudi Arabia’s top Mullah Counsil , the women driving may end ut damaged and really bad.

He claims it is known that female drivers destroy their ovaries and risk having children with clinical injuries, writes Reuters.

Women in Saudi Arabia are not allowed to drive themselves. A group of activists has launched a new campaign to challenge this ban. They encourage all Saudi women to get behind the wheel and drive yourself 26 October.

The campaign has been divided in style and has received support from several of the most famous female activists.

Mean female drivers have children with injuries
Sheikh Saleh al – Lohaidan , which is one of the 21 members of the country’s top Mullah counsil , looks therefore have to warn women that they risk destroying their sexual organs and ability to make healthy children if they defy the driving ban.

In an interview published Friday he asks women ” put reason before their hearts and feelings ,” according to Reuters.

– If a woman driving a car without it being extremely necessary, it can have negative physical consequences. Medical studies have shown that it automatically affects the ovaries and allows the pelvis is pushed upward , according to al – Lohaidan.

– That ‘s why the women who drive regularly have children with different clinical injuries, he claims.

He refers not to some case studies .

” Putting the Kingdom of embarrassment ”
It is not clear whether the other members of the priestly council parts al – Lohaidans vision.

It is not the first time he takes strongly against reform or measures designed to enhance Saudi women’s freedom. King Abdullah dismissed him as head of a legal counsel in 2009.

In documents leaked by Wikileaks, U.S. diplomats described al – Lohaidan as one that is known to prevent reforms.

They also think his ” ill-considered statements have put the kingdom in embarrassment more than once .”

Was sentenced to lashes for driving
There is no formal law that prevents Saudi women from driving. It is only a religious ruling issued by a religious leader when the car was introduced many decades ago .

If women will go places, they must be driven by either a hired driver or an employee, or by a male family member.

This has been challenged several times. A couple of years ago, a woman sentenced to ten lashes for driving the car herself, according to Amnesty International.

It happened two days after King Abdullag had granted women the right to vote in the country.”

As a woman professional driver with many femaile collueges driving heavy buses and having many perfectly healthy children I must say: Have he / them smoken their own socks? And if it will ruin the female ovaries to drive a car, what do they then mean will happen if they drive a bus??? Even more ruined? Then it would be as bad sitting in the passenger seat since it is sitting, so then maybe it is ruining the ovaries if they sit at all? Maybe a total sitting ban would do it? Women not allowed to sit on chairs, in sofas, on the floor, demand them to stand all life! Talk about men over there making make a public laughing stock out of themselves. And then all the other rubbish one read from women living over there. Are the men there even educated?

Source: http://www.nrk.no/verden/advarer-kvinner-mot-a-kjore-bil-1.11268942

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Every accusation imaginable has been thrown at Saudi women who spoke up for their right to drive their own cars. Sheikhs and ultra conservatives have created this intricate conspiracy theory on how this whole demand is a well-planned Iranian/Shia plight to bring down the government by corrupting it’s women. Others have claimed that it is a Western conspiracy because somehow the Christian/Jewish West know deep down that Islam is the right path but they need to corrupt Muslim women through using their own women as an example. According to their logic, somehow women driving cars will lead to the fall of Islam. Confusing, I know, but nevertheless quite emotional and effective when presented in a religious context of salvation and preserving our faith and morals in an evil world. Another issue that they have is a “gotcha” argument where they say if women really wanted to drive for the good…

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